You are in charge of your own life but you do need to remember that you need to grow into the person you want to become. Along the way, opportunities will come to you that will help you along the way and the outcome will be of much value to your life.
Whenever there are opportunities on your way, do not avoid them, but grab them with both hands. They are there for you so that you are able to learn, and continue to grow. Take every opportunity you get and make the best of it as possible for yourself. you’ll see that the outcome will be the result that you needed it to be.